June 3, 2015 – Page 10 – Momentary Lapse Of Sanity

He May not Have been their tonight but he was with us in spirit! This Business honor Reconginition would have had him beaming with Pride!

Love You & Couldn’t be more proud of you!

Sista Felicia

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June 3, 2015 facetioussoup aka MLWA

How to eliminate war for one human being: you.

Counseling TidBits

Dear Katie,

I read a saying of yours: “Hurt feelings or discomfort of any kind cannot be caused by another person. No one outside me can hurt me. That’s not a possibility.”

What’s the best way for someone who has suffered (such as a child who was beaten or a person raped) to make sense of this philosophy?

Katie: Identify and question what they were believing in that cruel situation as it was happening. They can do this later–even years later.

When children (or adults, for that matter) believe the thoughts they are thinking during and after a painful event, they suffer. It is not the painful event that causes their suffering once the event is over; it is their thoughts about the event.

This is hard for some people to hear, but if you take a closer look, it is obvious. The event is in the past; the…

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June 3, 2015 facetioussoup aka MLWA

Re-wiring the Brain

Counseling TidBits

We CAN re-write our own history…

One of the fastest ways to rewire the brain (in changing any behavior or emotion) is to stay in the present moment. When we take in a sunset, catch the scent of a spring flower, dance, or tune in to body sensations like our heart rate, breath, the tightness in our muscles, we are activating the right-brain, creating new neuro-pathways.

But what about the thoughts that keep arising? Whatever judgements/opinions you have that take you away from the present moment, I invite you to write on Byron Katie’s worksheet: the Judge-Your-Neighbor Worksheet. That is where all fearful, or “stuck” judgments about others, the world and self belong.

Katie shares her philosophy:

So how do I come to know what is true and what really matters? I identify and question the thoughts that take my awareness away, that take “me” away from my life now and plunge…

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June 3, 2015 facetioussoup aka MLWA

“Fear is not user-friendly” ~ Byron Katie

Counseling TidBits

“We only fear what we are—what we haven’t gone inside and taken a look at and met with understanding. If I think you might see me as boring, it would frighten me, because I haven’t investigated that thought.
So it’s not people who frighten me, it’s me that frightens me.
That’s my job, until I investigate and stop this fear for myself.
The worst that can happen is that I think you think about me what I think about myself.“
~ Byron Katie

Originally posted on : Fear is not user-friendly. ~ Byron Katie.

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June 3, 2015 facetioussoup aka MLWA

Finding True Peace with Only 4 Questions

Counseling TidBits

“Loving What Is and Finding the Truth with Only 4 Questions”

Off the web – by Farnoosh Brock

“If I had a prayer, it would be this: “God, spare me from the desire for love, approval or appreciation. Amen”

~Byron Katie

What if four questions could turn your frustration around and create harmony in your life? What if you could ask yourself powerful questions and trust that the process would lead you to inner peace and pain-free existence?

What if it really were that simple – not easy, mind you, but simple?

I’d been hearing about Byron Katie’s “The Work” and her book, “Loving What Is” for months, but I was too cheap to buy it! That’s right! It was on my ever growing reading wish list and I’d run way over budget on books. But then something shocking happened that put this book in my hot little hands. For…

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June 3, 2015 facetioussoup aka MLWA

The Value of Journaling

Counseling TidBits

Introspection Overload? The Value of Journaling by Lauren Suval

~ Worth Reading from Off the Web

Introspection Overload? The Value of Journaling To my fellow over-thinkers, ruminators, and introspective-dwellers: I know what it’s like to feel “stuck in your head.“

It’s those moments when your mind starts to wander, and all your reflections and ponderings (whether they may be trivial or significant) begin to simulate a mountain that’s too exhausting to climb. I like to refer to this as ‘introspection overload’ — thinking that decides to examine a subject matter intricately and closely, inviting further thoughts to join the party, even though you reason that it’s probably time to take a few steps back.

This is one of the reasons why I love journaling. I have drawers devoted to several years of journal-keeping (including a precious gem from my second-grade self).

Besides my interest in writing and jotting down various notes, happenings, or…

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