Day: June 7, 2015

A very wise woman told me that when you are dating, courting, or even married to a man one must remember to shut up about what is going on between you and your mate.

Sometimes, we as women forget that not every woman will be happy about our happiness and will utilize our sad times to their advantage. Some will even compile that information and someday use it against you.

Granny saidback in her day, they didn’t share their business about their personal relations with a man with another woman. You don’t give another woman ammunition to take your man she said. Learn to shut up. I know it’s hard especially when you are confiding in your girlfriend about what he did or didn’t do and how he made you cry. But the most important thing that we keep forgetting to do when we face trials and tribulations with our…

“Just like the moons and like suns,

With the certainty of tides,

Just like hopes springing high,

Still I’ll Rise” –Maya Angelou

I remember the first time I saw Them; Jagged, defined– two shades darker than my milk chocolate skin. I remember how They made me feel: Weak, foul, ashamed, worthless– all the things I already told myself daily were aspects of my personality. I remember cowering from Them in every way I knew how: thick, black cardigans despite the summer heat, makeup daubed to an impenetrable stratum, and layers of lies about cats I’ve never owned.
But at the end of the day after I undressed alone, after I washed away the makeup, and after my imaginary cats were forgotten They’d still be there, ruthlessly defined at the top of my right arm. Taunting me. Daring me to grace Them with companions.

It was the first time I’d dragged…