Once you find out that someone lied about their daddy molesting them you really can’t believe anything else that comes out of their mouth. That’s just a line you don’t cross. Karma eventually catches up to you and all your lies you’ve been spewing from your mouth for years on end. So sad but so true.
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Wow. I was molested for years so this really disturbs me. It is the most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to me and having that put on the news was horrible and shameful. I can’t imagine someone telling a lie about something so embarrassing. I never wanted anyone to even know because I was that ashamed and scared. It’s still embarrassing to me now but not as much because there’s is not anything I can do about it. Sometimes I wonder what my life would have been like if no one would’ve ever found out. Afterwards my family struggled mightily and I felt completely guilty because that man, my step-father at the time, was the source of household income. It was just my mother and her 5 children and I felt like I was the reason we had lost everything.
It also blows me away that someone would make something like this up because it’s not like you get brownie points or something. All you get is a bunch of unwanted attention. From the police report, court case, police interview, and the examination at the hospital you don’t even have the chance to live down the embarrassment. It’s like a barrage of questions over and over again about something you wish you never knew and from complete strangers no less. The worst part though, is the questions you get from the people you do know or having your preachers tell your mother that you (the child who was molested) is going to have to take responsibility for your part in the molestation.
I remember being especially scared one day before some kind of court trial. We were sitting outside of the hearing room ( I don’t really know what it’s called I just know we were in a government building downtown) and my mother asked me what I was going to tell them. I’m 29 now so I’m pretty sure this was something like a pre-trial hearing. The District Attorney at the time was Ken Hodges and my lead detective was Judy Sloan. But anyway, I told my mom that I would tell them what happened. Then she said, if they asked if your momma knew what would you say. I said I will tell them no and that you almost caught us one time in the living room ( notice I said caught us, like I said, I thought I was responsible). She got upset or scared one I couldn’t quite place the emotion and she told me not to say that because they would take me and my siblings from her. She told me I needed to cry and tell them that I didn’t want to do it anymore so that’s what I did. I started crying and Ken Hodges came out of that room and asked me if I was ready and I cried and said that I didn’t want to do it anymore. I was scared as hell but I was going to go in that room and testify but not if they were going to separate my siblings and I. Mr. Hodges told me that it was okay and that I didn’t have to do it. I was so grateful for him saying that because I just wanted it to be over already. After that he went back into that room and a short while later what I’m guessing were jurors came out of that room in a single-file line. One of those jurors was Walter Brown, Sr, a church member or ours at U. S. 19 Church of Christ. I remember being shocked to see him but I was more shocked by the fact that he just walked right on by like he didn’t know who me and my mother were. At the same time, my mother relaxed and said Oh I didn’t know we had one of our in there. At my age now, I don’t think Bro. Brown was supposed to be in that room at all. I mean, I thought jurors aren’t suppose to know the victim or the person on trial.
Sorry for making this so long. I didn’t intend to do so. Your post just caught me off guard. I just could not imagine making something like this up. I am a very shy, quiet person who rarely ever leaves my home…only to check the mailbox and grow my garden so being the center of attention is the last thing I want. This is why I say I was so embarrassed by this ordeal. I didn’t want people to know. I feel embarrassed when I hear other people talk about how it happened to them. I don’t know why but it feels like there is some sort of spotlight on me whenever this subject is brought up but I know that isn’t true. I don’t even talk about it now if I can help it and sometimes that makes me wonder if people who are so forthcoming with this information are lying or not. Still, I was not there in their situations and people handle things differently so I try not to make judgements on that. I don’t remember there being a big fallout in my community when my stepfather then was sent to jail. I just remember going to church and having people stare at me like I was a freak and having kids at my school ask me over and over what he did to me. EMBARRASSING. It makes you wonder if saying something is the right thing to do especially since some people see things like this as a private family matter. It’s taboo.
Wow, man. I am floored. I just could not imagine someone making something like this up. That really hurts my feelings. I don’t understand how some people can make light of something like this by making false allegations. Situations like this leave scars that last forever and it’s even worse when the scars are thrown out into the open for all to see. Well, at least to me it is. Thank you for this post. I would’ve never written this if not for you.
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I’m so very sorry for everything that happened to you! Time helps but doesn’t take it away. I don’t know from experience but I lost a husband of seventeen years things get better but the pain doesn’t go away. Yes I have a friend who has told me and everyone around her that her dad molested her. Now her father lost his house, long story there, and she went to help him and moved him in. I warned my children about not being allowed to be alone with her dad because of what happened. After she heard about the neighbors warning each other she told us that it was never her dad but her cousin. Her dad was abusive and I never heard that before ever, just that he molested her. It really makes me question everything that she says now. If you lied about something that huge I’m pretty sure that everything else is questionable. Just broke my heart to find out that all this time it was all lies. God bless you and you have a great life ahead of you. Thanks for sharing something so tough to talk about. XO
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Wow. I was molested for years so this really disturbs me. It is the most embarrassing thing that has ever happened to me and having that put on the news was horrible and shameful. I can’t imagine someone telling a lie about something so embarrassing. I never wanted anyone to even know because I was that ashamed and scared. It’s still embarrassing to me now but not as much because there’s is not anything I can do about it. Sometimes I wonder what my life would have been like if no one would’ve ever found out. Afterwards my family struggled mightily and I felt completely guilty because that man, my step-father at the time, was the source of household income. It was just my mother and her 5 children and I felt like I was the reason we had lost everything.
It also blows me away that someone would make something like this up because it’s not like you get brownie points or something. All you get is a bunch of unwanted attention. From the police report, court case, police interview, and the examination at the hospital you don’t even have the chance to live down the embarrassment. It’s like a barrage of questions over and over again about something you wish you never knew and from complete strangers no less. The worst part though, is the questions you get from the people you do know or having your preachers tell your mother that you (the child who was molested) is going to have to take responsibility for your part in the molestation.
I remember being especially scared one day before some kind of court trial. We were sitting outside of the hearing room ( I don’t really know what it’s called I just know we were in a government building downtown) and my mother asked me what I was going to tell them. I’m 29 now so I’m pretty sure this was something like a pre-trial hearing. The District Attorney at the time was Ken Hodges and my lead detective was Judy Sloan. But anyway, I told my mom that I would tell them what happened. Then she said, if they asked if your momma knew what would you say. I said I will tell them no and that you almost caught us one time in the living room ( notice I said caught us, like I said, I thought I was responsible). She got upset or scared one I couldn’t quite place the emotion and she told me not to say that because they would take me and my siblings from her. She told me I needed to cry and tell them that I didn’t want to do it anymore so that’s what I did. I started crying and Ken Hodges came out of that room and asked me if I was ready and I cried and said that I didn’t want to do it anymore. I was scared as hell but I was going to go in that room and testify but not if they were going to separate my siblings and I. Mr. Hodges told me that it was okay and that I didn’t have to do it. I was so grateful for him saying that because I just wanted it to be over already. After that he went back into that room and a short while later what I’m guessing were jurors came out of that room in a single-file line. One of those jurors was Walter Brown, Sr, a church member or ours at U. S. 19 Church of Christ. I remember being shocked to see him but I was more shocked by the fact that he just walked right on by like he didn’t know who me and my mother were. At the same time, my mother relaxed and said Oh I didn’t know we had one of our in there. At my age now, I don’t think Bro. Brown was supposed to be in that room at all. I mean, I thought jurors aren’t suppose to know the victim or the person on trial.
Sorry for making this so long. I didn’t intend to do so. Your post just caught me off guard. I just could not imagine making something like this up. I am a very shy, quiet person who rarely ever leaves my home…only to check the mailbox and grow my garden so being the center of attention is the last thing I want. This is why I say I was so embarrassed by this ordeal. I didn’t want people to know. I feel embarrassed when I hear other people talk about how it happened to them. I don’t know why but it feels like there is some sort of spotlight on me whenever this subject is brought up but I know that isn’t true. I don’t even talk about it now if I can help it and sometimes that makes me wonder if people who are so forthcoming with this information are lying or not. Still, I was not there in their situations and people handle things differently so I try not to make judgements on that. I don’t remember there being a big fallout in my community when my stepfather then was sent to jail. I just remember going to church and having people stare at me like I was a freak and having kids at my school ask me over and over what he did to me. EMBARRASSING. It makes you wonder if saying something is the right thing to do especially since some people see things like this as a private family matter. It’s taboo.
Wow, man. I am floored. I just could not imagine someone making something like this up. That really hurts my feelings. I don’t understand how some people can make light of something like this by making false allegations. Situations like this leave scars that last forever and it’s even worse when the scars are thrown out into the open for all to see. Well, at least to me it is. Thank you for this post. I would’ve never written this if not for you.
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That’s so sad. Its a serious issue
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