Month: May 2015

Consumation

He was there waiting
Though she hadn’t
Been quite sure
Knew he would be
He’d been like that
From day one
What he said he did
She appreciated
That about him

She thought those
Short minutes
Clearing customs
And walking through
The doors marked
“Welcome to Canada”
About what he would do.

Greet her quietly
Yell out in glee
Hug her and hold her
Then he did all three

That first kiss
A shocking PDA
In the middle of the airport
Before he whisked her away

“Are you hungry” he said
His hand on her knee
As they drove off
About twenty to three

“No” she murmured
Still taking it all in
She was finally with him
Liked the touch of is hand
Against her legs skin

The hotel was bright
Big and well appointed
Nervously she stood back
While he registered
Another hug in the elevator
Reassuring and…

If you’re anything like me, relationships were never on your agenda for your early twenties. But then when I was 21, I just sort of fell into one… with a guy who was in the exact same mindset, and I couldn’t be happier that I did. But at what point did I see that I was in a serious relationship? Well, there were a few tale telling signs…

1) You had a toothbrush at his place.

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2) Your roommates are starting to forget what you look like…

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3) But his roommates have debated charging you rent

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4) You can’t remember the last time you wore make-up

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5) You can act stupid together

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6) You can spend days in bed and not worry about all that bed sweat.. (that’s a real thing)

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7) His family get you christmas presents

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In reality, it’s a lot…

Popular vernacular around dating and love is full of catchphrases like “the spark,” “butterflies,” and “chemistry,” all used to describe a feeling you have with another person that indicates that they’re “the one.” What is that feeling, exactly? Can it be trusted? Does it change over time? Is it even real?

When we’re dating in search of a relationship, we’re looking for a feeling that hits us the moment we meet someone. If you’re using a dating site or app, you hope that the photos and electronic communication translate to that feeling in person. If you meet at a social event, it’s probably that feeling that leads you to pursue dating each other. If that feeling wanes or is missing, maybe you break things off so you can keep looking for it.

I asked some friends about their experience with the spark:
I’m single and been hurt a lot by…

Being hurt emotionally is a hard pill to swallow. There is always a hesitance in asking someone questions, such as, ‘Do you like me?’ or ‘Will you go out with me?’ because you could be denied. I once asked a boy to a dance and although he attempted to deny me in a nice way, I put myself in a vulnerable position and was hurt in the end. In the beginning of a relationship it is your choice to pursue someone and ask those hard questions but once you get the ball rolling who knows what could happen.

I didn’t plan on falling in love. I didn’t even know if we would last. I was 17 years old just trying to get through high school without going insane. I had no control over my feelings and that was a scary thing…

That’s the thing about love, you really can’t control…